****The following was taken from my book anthlogy "HERSTORY Reveals His Glory". It is an account of my own personal experience.
If God is Love, Then Who am I?
...love is kind and thoughtful…
I remember thinking to myself that it was so sad that my uncle had passed away, after all he had been such an intricate part of my life – perhaps the only man I had ever witnessed be a great father and a loving husband – so why don’t I feel sadness for myself I am just sad for my mom because she lost her brother. I am sad for my other cousins because they lost their uncle. Sad for his children because they lost their father. Sad for his friends because they lost a great friend. Oh and his neighbors – my uncle was a great neighbor. Perhaps the whole world will suffer at the loss of this great man – yet I feel nothing!
I am sure that some would say that I had simply been in shock or even denial – unable to feel anything. After all only 30 minutes has passed since my nosey neighbor had barged into my Auntie’s bathroom – where I sat on the toilet with my pretty pink panties at my ankles – and very excitedly exclaimed to me that she heard that my uncle had just died. “Why is she in this bathroom?” was my first thought. “Oh my goodness am I supposed to upset and if so what facial expression should I be flaunting?” As these thoughts strolled through my mind I could already hear the devastation of the news affecting my aunt in a nearby room. Now this aunt was not related to this uncle – she was my dad’s sister, and he was my mom’s brother – they had actually dated as teenagers. I sat there a while longer trying to decide on how I should react to the news – while others came to comfort me because they were certain that I would have a reaction to the news – I had none, until I forced out a deep breath and struggled to stimulate a flood of tears.
The tears never came that time – nor did they come many others times when I needed them to. I trained myself to respond with some form of a powerful emotion when horrible things happened - but the truth was that I genuinely felt nothing and I was afraid of my nothingness.
5 Simple Steps to Integrity
Unless you are one of those people that enjoy offending or hurting others – living a life that is free of “little white lies” and/or exaggerations can be a struggle. It requires a great deal of courage – the ability to do that which is frightening or extremely uncomfortable. Living among emotionally charged humans with the intension to live in full on integrity can be gut-wrenching, however; it can be done. It may not be the easiest task (at least not in the beginning), but with consistent practice you can be a person clothed in integrity – the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.
Righteousness (right standing) is synonymous with integrity and it is an absolute must for those who intend to live in integrity, free of drama, and have consistent success in any area of their lives. Without integrity failure is eminent; marriages, friendships, business partnerships and relationships of every sort will fold when the participants are do not engage in consistent and authentic integrity.
So, how do we as mere humans become courageous enough to live lives of integrity? There is that word again, courageous – the late Dr. Maya Angelou said, “Courage is the most important of all the virtues for without it you cannot consistently carry out the others – and so we know that courage is in the formula of integrity. Here are 5 steps that can be taken to get to a life of integrity:
Human beings are much more accepting of imperfection than we openly admit. Without the stigmas and judgments attached to our flaws – which we foolishly create ourselves – we are more apt to accept one another than to reject each other. Nobody, I repeat, nobody likes to be the fool and when we act out integrity we remove the other person’s opportunity to engage with us in truth. You may be pleasantly surprised at what people can and will accept if we would just give them option to choose to be in integrity with us and not be fooled with lies and misrepresentations.
OMG! The Powerball is more than $700 Million right now! WOW! Do you know how close that is to $1 Billion? Close enough to spend the measly $2.00 it costs to take a chance on winning. What!? Did the preacher just tell the people to play the lottery?
Well, let me tell you a little story:
There was a man who woke up every morning repeating this positive affirmation: “The wealth of the wicked is laid up for the righteous and so today, I will win the lottery for 1 million dollars (in our case $700 million).” He told this to his neighbor who played the lottery daily and often won a few hundred dollars here and there. He told it to his sister – who often played the lottery and won a few dollars now and then as well.
The neighbor was an atheist and the sister had long ago turned her back on God, but the man was so certain of his affirmation that each adapted the words to perspective dealing with God. The neighbor began to recite, “Every day that I play the lottery, I will win!” The sister began to recite simply, “I will win the lottery and take care of my entire family!” The man laughed at their mantras because he was certain that God received his affirmation as a prayer every day.
One evening, shortly after the lottery drawing – that has been a historical amount – yelp you got it…$700 million – his phone rang and there was a knock at his door simultaneously. While rushing to answer the knock on the door, he answered the phone to hear the screams of his sister’s voice, “Brother, we won! We won! Our family will never be without again!” He almost dropped the phone. He arrived at the door to see his neighbor jumping up and down, “Neighbor, we won! We won! Now we can build that community center for the children that we have talked about for years!” The man knew he should have been celebrating, but he was saddened and confused.
He stole away to himself to have a little talk with Jesus. “Lord, am I not your servant? Have I not believed in you for my whole life? Have I not exercised my faith time and time again? Lord, do you hear me?” The Lord responds, “Yes my child; you are a servant, and yes you have been with me always and I know of your faith. But son, while you were exercising your faith, you have also exercised your legs and walked down to the corner store and played the lottery!” The man sat there stunned. “Furthermore, your atheist neighbor has such a plan to bless others. I know his plan. He has been writing the vision for many years. And your backsliding sister? She, too, has a plan to bless your family members for generations to come. I know. She writes to me in her journal every day. She has done so for years. Son, what was your plan?”
So, my story is twofold. First thing is first: Let’s go to scripture. “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children, and the wealth of the sinner is stored up for [the hands of] the righteous” (Proverbs 13:22). Yes, the Bible does tell us there is wealth that is stored up for those who love His way and walk upright and righteous. And from scripture, we also know that God moves miraculously in the earth via natural laws – which is why Jesus had to be born of a woman to enter the earthly realm…just as you and I. When spiritual power and natural law come together (which God Himself set in the earth - and He does not go against Himself), miracles happen!
The very reason I have written this entire piece is to encourage you to write down a vision for your seeds! When God does bless you with the abundance my friend, how will you bless the people? Who will you sow into? How much will you sow? Are you excited about sowing? YOU BETTER GET EXCITED! Well, in the processes of planning for my $700 Million lottery winnings, I have written down my “Seed Sowing” activities because I am ready to be a blessing to The Body, my local community, and my global community.
That’s not all! I love you all so much that I wanted to support you in writing your “Seed Sowing” list as well! Yes, I have already designed it (courtesy of my awesome Business Friend and Partner, Famira Green (www.famiragreen.com). All YOU need to do is fill in the numbers! Start with the financial amount that you are believing God for and move on to fill in the people, places, and projects you will sow a portion of that financial blessing back in to!
I look forward to hearing back from you so that I can pray over your Sow List!
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HAPPY NEW YEAR! or as I like to say JOYOUS NEW YEAR! Joy is more solid than happy and if there is anything I need in this new year is SOLID. Like most people I have been in a reflective mindset for about the last 2 weeks, taking assessment for all of the lessons, losses and leaps that occured in 2015 - and there quite a few of each.
WOW! I didn't realize how awesome 2015 was. I am so excited and prepared to walk in the goodness of 2016. I felt the presence of God preceed me and I was empowered to feel His presence as the clock struck midnight. With God before me, having already prepped my greatness path I know for sure that the world will come to know just who M.E. Porter IS and I am grateful.
Its an amazing thing when women come together to usher in healing and restoration among one another. In a world where referencing another women as a "B***h" is commonplace, we all need a retrieve what commonplace - we need the extraordinary to take the stage! Well, ME and my 9 phenominal co-authors have answered the call to rise above the normal and I am super excited that this day has finally arrived; HERSTORY Reveals His Glory is available for purchase in both paperback and Kindle format on Amazon.com .
I just had to stop for a moment and take a bow to these ladies for their willingness to share their truth with the entire world. Christina "Chris Dannie" Wilson, Adrienne Santana, Famira "The Diamond Diva" Green, Tiffany Campbell, Angela Edwards, Cindy Miller, Gail Freeman, Marlowe Scott and Stevii Aisha Mills - I salute you powerful women and honor the glory of God that resides in each of you. This project is so much bigger than any of us can even begin to imagine, hold on to your hats ladies this is just the beginning.
When women truly come together and bridge the gag between competition and collaboration amazing things begin happen.
I AM EXCITED! Amazing, huh that I actually had to be chastised for not getting exciting about the blessings of God! But, the deeper observation is that I allowed habitual disappointments from people keep me from rejoicing in the blessings of The Lord. That's the truth! I know that I am not the only one that has fallen into the "don't get excited about it until you see it because people will disappoint you!" It's true people are just people and people will do all manner of things that cause you to feel let down and/or disappointed - but when your trust is in GOD, The Great I AM - there is no room for disappointment because there is no possiblity of fallacy HIS will is perfect!
So God made ME some promises many years ago and I had grown weary in faith - I was acting as if God had to prove to me that He was going to keep His word therefore I was dead set on withholding my excitement until God proved to me that He was not like humans! What the HECK! Repeat after ME, "Marilyn was tripppin' hard!"
"God is NOT a man that he should lie..."
Since Part 1 of this article I have come to grips with the that that I have not been excited about far too many things! I sat and a created list of the various accomplishments and blessings that have come into my life over the past year and I ended up with about 4 pages (front and back) of blessings and accomplishments - 98% of which I had not celebrated or be excited about! SHAME ON ME!
I am so super gifted and blessed that I can hardly contain myself to finish this writing. So let me just share with you my current exciting celebratory moment!!! This past weekend I was blessed to begin the taping of a new television show called "The Successors" (ok I may have already told you that part, the case is amazing ya'll stay tuned!) and I truly allowed myself to be excited about it y'all! Turnt UP as the children would say! I am rejoicing in The Lord! Your girl done got (yes I said that) excited!
Don't leave the celebrations in your life for later - later may never come! Get excited NOW!
Are you paying attention to how amazing your life really is? Did you know that someone would love the ability or the option to be reading this blog right now? Someone is thirsty right now - without the option of clean water, while many of us MUST have bottled water to quench our not so cirtical thirst. Can we just get excited about the basics?
Note to Self: Remember to share that YOU had not been getting excited about the basics before you move on.
I have hit the Amazon Bestseller list 4 times this year - YES FOUR! I am a radio show host - I get to interview and conversate with some amazing people! I am the CEO of M. E. Unlimited LLC, a deciding partner in MDTL Coaching and Consulting Group, I operate a stand alone women's minsitry - Motivationally ME (which has a whopping 10,000 + FB fans). I also serve (when I am not on assigment) as a member of the pulpit staff of RTCM and I have a Pastor who supports my stand alone ministry. My oldest child is proudly serving in the U. S. Army - as an office nonetheless! My middle child is making a powerful name for herself at America's first HBCU and she will no doubt grace the big screen someday. I have handful of women that support me and love me each day - women who love The Lord first. I am highly sought out as a mentor and coach, and my speaking style gets quite a bit of attention. A few weeks ago I was casts in an upcoming reality tv show that will focus on Christian entrepreneurs in ATL! Ok I will stop right there with the self promotion - because there is a deeper thing I want you all to know. I HAD NOT BEEN GETTING EXCITED ABOUT ANY OF THIS! NOPE NO ONE THING! NADA! ZILCH! ZERO EXCITEMENT!! I didn't even realize my degree of nonchalantness until a dear sister friend of mine told me that she prays for God to blow my mind so that I will be forced to get excited (shout out to Famira The Diamond Diva!). Shame on ME!
As I sat with that thought - the idea of me not getting excited about the goodness, no - the greatness - nope - THE AWESOMENESS of GOD, I was inflated with sorrow and knew that I owed The Savior and apology.
...... to be continued
As coaches we remain at the ready to serve and support our clients – even on our not so good days we show up unapologetically for others; but who shows up for the coach? I have an answer for that – you guessed it another coach! It took me many years to realize that I, like my clients, needed a support system that could not just be my girlfriends or my mother – I needed people with the ability to engage me and guide me forward, just like I do for so many others. So I found a “No-My-Best-Day Coach” – which is another coach that has committed to coach me back to my Sacred Soul space on those not so good days. We are in fact committed to this for one another.
Recently, I reached out to my own business coach just to offer a few words of encouragement. She had been on my heart for a day or so and I finally just sent her message on Facebook, with a video of me speaking to a group of women and I hoped it would be a source of good feelings for her as well. She replied immediately! “YOU are what they are talking about when they say the coach is being coached, thank you so much for thinking of me – I needed that!” It gave me such a feeling of peace to know that I had been able to be of service to my own coach and it also showed me a few things that are necessary for that type of exchange to be of value. These are my insights:
· Technique Number 1 in Coaching the Coach: Recognize that there is a need! Pay attention to the words or lack of words and patterns of other coaches in your circle. Look signs of burn out or a sense of overwhelm.
· Technique Number 2 in Coaching the Coach: Be willing to throw a life line. The moment your intuition tells you that there is a need – spring into action! Action could be a phone call or a text message. A message via social media (Facebook is my favorite because you can see exactly when they have opened the message) or an email. And if you are close enough schedule a lunch or dinner date. My favorite first resource is prayer.
· Technique Number 3 in Coaching the Coach: Respect the professional boundaries of the relationship. What do I mean by that? People have knack for losing sight of someone’s strength once they have seen them in a moment of weakness or need. However we must be able to continue to recognize one another as geniuses at what we do even after we’ve needed to be coach ourselves.
Yes, even the coach needs a coach, but remember that having a need does not diminish the value of who we are as professionals who stand ready to serve our clients unapologetically.
Is it possible? The truth, that is? Can we be truth seekers, truth tellers and truth livers (that word kind of funny)? It seems as if we as a people have spiraled into an all-encompassing LIE! The lie is that, "The TRUTH no longer matters!" Lies are so easily justified that the truth seems to have no place in our lives. Go ahead and say it, "Aint' that the truth!" YES, it is the truth, but as you respond to the truth the lie is yet looming. In a moment the phone will ring and you will see an 800# and refrain from answering the phone. Now many of you will think that not answering the phone is not the lie. The lie would be to answer the phone and have your child (whom you punish for lying on their own behalf) tell the caller that you are not home. Well dear heart please allow me the opportunity to show where the lie begins. The very moment that your intent is to deceive! Not answering the phone is an attempt to make the caller believe that you are not home or that you unavailable. LIAR!
This is a no judgement zone, so let me be truthful and tell you that I do this at least twice a week! So as we would say when I was a child, "It takes one to know one!" But we both gotta do better!
I recently hosted an expert panel of fabulous women here in the great city of Atlanta - yes y'all I am Oprah Winfrey in the making! But back to the panel, more importantly back to the truth. Well one of those esteemed women was Lisa Bradley - Your Money Friend and what Mrs. Bradley said was, "When I got honest about my spending habits and admitted to myself that I was not good with managing money - my income went from 40,000.00 a year as a professor, to $3,000,000.00 in my own business." WHAT! The truth did that?! Yes the truth unlocked the blessing my friend. The truth unclogged the drain that the lies were stuffed in. The truth brings with it freedom, but YOU must seek it, speak it, and live it!
What Soul Truth is sitting inside of you waiting to be told? Is it a 3 million dollar truth? A heal your broken heart truth? A change your entire view on life truth?
Please don't allow the fictitious comfort of the lie keep you stuck.